Foolish Rudeness Ruins A Job Interview

Originally published September 3, 2014

Revised and republished July 20, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Ignoring opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you believe
your success depends on their failure

Driving to a job interview, a man passed another driver, cut the other driver off, and flipped his finger at the other driver. The rude man believed that his success in getting to the job interview depended on the other driver’s failure.

The rude man showed up for the interview only to discover that the interviewer was the other driver. The interviewer had already experienced this man’s rudeness on the highway. She knew that hiring him meant bringing his rudeness into her workplace. Since the man’s qualifications meant nothing compared to his foolish rudeness, he left without a job offer.

“All in a Day’s Work”
Reader’s Digest
November, 2012, page 30

Paula M. Kramer
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The Foolish Failure Of Lisa Kudrow’s Former Best Friends

Originally published April 2, 2014.

Republished November 18, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you do not understand that
your success is connected to their success

When Lisa Kudrow was 13, her two best friends said to her, “For your own good, you need to see what would happen if we weren’t here.” This is the way Lisa describes the experience: “It was really brutal. Very hard.”

Being brutal to a friend is the opposite of doing something for her own good.

Lisa’s older sister got her through those difficult years. Lisa went on to star in the mega-hit television series Friends, become an executive producer for the television series Who Do You Think You Are?, and star in the original, improvised online series Web Therapy. She also was a guest star for several episodes on ABC network’s hit series Scandal.

What sort of serendipitous opportunities, connections, and resources would Lisa Kudrow’s former best friends have now if they had remained her best friends?

For their own good, Lisa Kudrow’s former best friends should have found out what would happen if they had continued to be Lisa’s best friends.

“Lisa Kudrow”
Lawrence Grobel
Saturday Evening Post
January 5, 2014

Paula M. Kramer
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The Foolish Failure Of Medical Professionals Leads To Freaky Failure For Patients: Ulcers & Stomach Cancer

Originally published October 16, 2013.

Revised and republished on November 7, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you do not understand that
your success is connected to their success.

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time to just by chance
suffer a loss because of someone else’s failure

Into the mid 1990s, gastroenterologists believed that stress, spicy foods, and too much acid led to ulcers. Treatments included diet, antacids, antidepressants, and surgery.

In 1981, Australian internist Barry Marshall began working with Robin Warren, a pathologist at the Royal Perth Hospital. Warren had discovered that a spiral bacteria named Helicobacter pylori or H. pylori could overrun and infect the gut. He found the bacteria in biopsies of both ulcers and stomach cancer. Marshall traced H. pylori as the cause of both peptic ulcers and stomach cancers. He also discovered that gastritis (inflammation of the inside surface of the stomach) precedes both ulcers and stomach cancer.

When presented with the information, gastroenterologists foolishly decided bacteria could not cause ulcers or stomach cancer. Gastroenterologists ignored Warren and Marshall’s scientific evidence at least in part because the evidence meant losing patients. Patients cured of ulcers with antibiotics would not come back for repeated treatments. Every time Marshall and Warren presented their findings to gastroenterologists, they faced a “campaign of negativism”. Medical journals made getting the word out difficult by rejecting their scientific paper.

Microbiologists – researchers who study infectious diseases – considered the research on H. pylori important. Unfortunately, scientific papers on ulcers and acid drowned out anything microbiologists wrote about H. pylori.

To prove his research, Marshall infected himself with H. pylori, developed gastritis, then cured himself with antibiotics. He published a synthesis of the research in The Medical Journal of Australia in 1985. Gastroenterologists still refused to use antibiotics. Marshall moved to the United States in 1986. Articles in Reader’s Digest, National Enquirer, and other publications about his work brought attention to his research. In the mid 1990s, the National Institute of Health (NIH) and the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) decided to push the issue. Patients with ulcers and stomach cancer finally got the treatment that had been available for a decade or more.

During that decade, people continued to lose their health and their lives to ulcers and stomach cancer. With each loss of health and life, everyone who rejected Robin Warren and Barry Marshall’s research lost all possibilities for any serendipitous success those patients might have created for them.

Barry Marshall now shows the rejection letters for his scientific paper during lectures.

“Today the standard of care for an ulcer is treatment with an antibiotic. And stomach cancer—once one of the most common forms of malignancy—is almost gone from the Western world.”

“Getting medicine to accept new thinking”
Joanna Cardwell
Crohn’s MAP Vaccine
crohnsmapvaccine.com
February 17, 2015

“The Dr. Who Drank Infectious Broth, Gave Himself an Ulcer, and Solved a Medical Mystery”
Pamela Weintraub
Discover Magazine
March 2010

Paula M. Kramer
Resource Rock Star (See websites below.)

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Basketball’s Three Point Foolish Failure Attitude Towards Jeremy Lin

Originally published February 2, 2013.

Revised and republished October 30, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success
in people who are different from you
because you do not understand that
your success is connected to their success

First Point Attitude

Scouting methodology that focuses on:

Watching videotape to see who “runs really fast, jumps really high, does the quick, easy thing to evaluate”

Predraft workouts to watch for skill work, shooting, and one or two on two or three on three

Second Point Attitude

Asians are poor athletes.

Third Point Attitude

Ivy League schools do not produce great athletes.

Failure To See Opportunities

These foolish failure attitudes put Lin in the NBA D-League three times. Coaches passed him over or put him in a back up spot. Finally able to show his stuff for the Knicks, Lin led “a turnaround of an 8–15 team that had lost 11 of its last 13 games.” In short order, “Lin became the first NBA player to score at least 20 points and have seven assists in each of his first five starts.”

Taiwanese American and Harvard grad Jeremy Lin does not do “anything that’s extra flashy or freakishly athletic”, but he is savvy in scoring, assists, steals, blocked shots, field-goal percentage, and free-throw percentage.

How many other valuable players have been left in the D-League or on the bench by basketball’s three point foolish failure attitude?

Other kinds of foolish failure are possible in basketball. Signed to the Houston Rockets, one of Jeremy Lin’s teammates is James Harden. Lin and Harden are good at the same things. They each play their best when the other one does not play. Someone needs to identify a smarter way to use all of their skills all of the time.

“Jeremy Lin: Fernando Valenzuela understands Lin-Sanity first hand”
Daniel Brown
San Jose Mercury News
February 16, 2012

“An All-Around Talent, Obscured by His Pedigree”
Chuck Culpepper
The New York Times
September 14, 2010

“From Couch To Clutch”
Pablo S. Torre
Sports Illustrated
February 20, 2012

Paula M. Kramer
Resource Rock Star (See websites below.)

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Choose success instead of failure for yourself.

Recognize when other people are choosing failure for you.

Standards For Success Posters

Success & Failure Choices

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