Eric Cantor’s Blunder Backfired Him Into An Historic Defeat

Originally published June 25, 2014.

Republished November 25, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Blunder Backfire
Your neglect for other people’s needs and passions
backfires onto you as unforeseen blunders

Eric Cantor began serving as the Congressional Representative for Virginia’s 7th district in 2001. He became House Majority Leader in 2011. He seemed headed to succeed John Boehner as Speaker of the House. As time passed, however, Cantor chose “dealmaking” with Republican leaders over “wooing” voters in his district. His staff was “consistently described as aloof”. Community events in his home district became less important than exclusive events all over the country. Cantor ignored the needs and passions of his constituents to focus on his own need and passion for power.

Eric Cantor blundered with his constituents. His blunder backfired into a history making first. Cantor’s blunder made him the first House Majority Leader in history to lose a renomination bid for his position.

“Eric Cantor Falls to Shock Defeat in Primary”
Jack Fitzpatrick and Alex Roarty
National Journal
June 10, 2014

“A Surprising Loss for Unsurprising Reasons”
Ford O’Connell
U.S. News & World Report
June 14, 2014

“Why Cantor chose Bobby Van’s”
Byron Tau
Politico
June 11, 2014

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A Benefit That Boomeranged Back & Out

Originally published June 11, 2014.

Revised and republished November 24, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Benefit Boomerang
Your respect for other people’s needs and passions
boomerangs back to you as unforeseen benefits

Hairstylist David Wagner had a client who came in every five weeks. One day, the client came in for a styling weeks early. When Wagner asked about her evening plans, she said she wanted to look and feel good that night.

Wagner gave his client a great scalp massage, shampooed her hair, styled her hair, joked with her, and laughed with her. She hugged him goodbye.

Days later, Wagner received a letter from this client. The client had intended to commit suicide the night of the last styling. She wanted to look good for her funeral. Having no idea what he was doing for the woman, Wagner provided enough respect for her needs and passions that she felt her life could get better. She got treatment and changed her life.

The respect Wagner gave his client boomeranged back to him as a revelation that he had the power to make a difference in the lives of other people. Wagner then boomeranged the benefit out. He launched Daymaker Movement, wrote the book Life As A Daymaker, and continues to respect the needs and passions of other people. Wagner still thanks his client for her letter because of what her letter did for his life. And Daymakers around the world take intentional acts of good will everyday, creating ever more benefit boomerangs.

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Full-Blown Failure Can Get Yucky

Originally published October 1, 2014.

Republished November 20, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Full-Blown Failure
The unforeseen failure other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create failure for them

Clothing designer Dana Roslan brought cookies for her lunches, only to have them stolen by a coworker. Frustrated, Roslan bought dog biscuits that looked like biscotti and set the trap. She said her only remorse was “not being able to see his face after he ate the bait.”

The coworker intentionally created failure for Roslan by stealing her delicious cookies. Roslan responded by intentionally creating failure for the coworker with the bait of yucky dog biscuits.

People do get creative with their revenge.

“Irritations spur creative revenge”
Ian Urbina
The Seattle Times
March 21, 2005, page 7A

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The Sincere Offer That Was Enough To Spark An Unforeseen Spectacular Success

Originally published April 16, 2014.

Republished  November 19, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Spectacular Success
The unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create success for them

Jacques Clarence LeBermuth attended Worcester Academy, a private urban boarding school in Worcester, Massachusetts, from 1920 to 1922. When he was a sophomore, LeBermuth’s family had difficulty paying his tuition and boarding fees. The school offered to waive the fees so LeBermuth could continue his education. Instead of taking the offer, LeBermuth dropped out of school and returned to his family in New York City where he got a job as an errand boy at A. Iselin & Company on Wall Street. He moved up into bond trading and became a wealthy investor and banker.

After LeBermuth’s death in 1996 at age 89, his lawyer contacted Worcester Academy to say that LeBermuth had left the school a bequest. By that time, everyone at Worcester had forgotten that LeBermuth had ever attended the Academy. The current administrators knew that Charles E. Merrill had attended Worcester and gone on to found Merrill Lynch & Co., and that Edward Davis Jones had attended Worcester and gone on to cofound Dow Jones & Company, but it took them days to figure out who Jacques Clarence LeBermuth was. Discovering LeBermuth’s connection was important because his $9.5 million bequest to Worcester was the Academy’s largest bequest in its 168 year history.

Perhaps LeBermuth made his generous bequest because Worcester Academy made its generous offer in spite of LeBermuth’s birth outside of the U.S. LeBermuth was born in Belgium. We’ll never know for sure, but it’s obvious that LeBermuth’s gratitude for Worcester Academy’s sincere offer to intentionally create success for him endured through the remaining decades of his life.

“9.5 Million Reasons To Remember Him”
Nathan Cobb
The Boston Globe
March 23, 2002

“Private Sector; Kindness Repaid, 80 Years Later”
Aaron Donovan
The New York Times
March 31, 2002

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The Foolish Failure Of Lisa Kudrow’s Former Best Friends

Originally published April 2, 2014.

Republished November 18, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you do not understand that
your success is connected to their success

When Lisa Kudrow was 13, her two best friends said to her, “For your own good, you need to see what would happen if we weren’t here.” This is the way Lisa describes the experience: “It was really brutal. Very hard.”

Being brutal to a friend is the opposite of doing something for her own good.

Lisa’s older sister got her through those difficult years. Lisa went on to star in the mega-hit television series Friends, become an executive producer for the television series Who Do You Think You Are?, and star in the original, improvised online series Web Therapy. She also was a guest star for several episodes on ABC network’s hit series Scandal.

What sort of serendipitous opportunities, connections, and resources would Lisa Kudrow’s former best friends have now if they had remained her best friends?

For their own good, Lisa Kudrow’s former best friends should have found out what would happen if they had continued to be Lisa’s best friends.

“Lisa Kudrow”
Lawrence Grobel
Saturday Evening Post
January 5, 2014

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Be Smart About Finding Good Doctors

Originally published October 16, 2014.

Republished November 17, 2015 after a web host transfer

Smart Success
Seeing opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you understand
that your success is connected to their success

A good doctor has an Ivy League degree, a prestigious title, and charm, right?

Not according to Marty Makary, a doctor himself. Makary practices laparoscopic surgery at Johns Hopkins Hospital, teaches health policy at Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, and is an international expert in patient safety.

Makary’s advice for finding a good doctor is to ask people lower down on the organizational ladder, hospital employees. “Their word trumps an Ivy League degree, prestigious titles, and charm.’

Be smart by looking behind polish (Ivy League degrees, prestigious titles, charm) to look for performance. The people who see performance everyday are the people who know whose performance is best.

High polish does not guarantee high performance.

Low polish (a lower level job in a hierarchy) does not automatically mean low performance.

Low polish hospital employees demonstrate high performance in identifying high performing doctors.

“50 Secrets your Surgeon Won’t Tell You”
Michelle Crouch
Reader’s Digest
October 2012, pages 114-123

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The Failure Of Hospital Workers Creates Freaky Failure For Hospital Patients

Originally published February 26, 2014.

Republished November 16, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time
to just by chance suffer a loss
because of someone else’s failure

Every year, about 100,000 hospital patients die because of drug-resistant superbugs. In hospitals that use motion detectors to activate video cameras, electronic badges that track handwashing, and radio-frequency computer chips in sinks, “numerous medical professionals have been caught trying to cheat the system…” One hidden camera study found that only 10% of medical staff washed their hands. Medical professionals use these justifications to fail at handwashing:

High pressure environments

Tedium of washing hands

Focusing on difficult tasks rather than simple tasks

Resistance to authority

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“Hospitals and Superbugs: Go in Sick…Get Sicker”
Coco Ballantyne
Scientific American
October 18, 2007

“Hospitals Enforce Hand-Washing to Reduce High Patient Death Rate from In-House Infections”
allgov.com
May 31, 2013

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One Woman’s Straightforward Get-Out-Of-Bed Success Sparks Life Changing Success For Another Woman

Originally published February 12, 2014.

Revised and republished November 15, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time
to just by chance benefit
from someone else’s success

Introduction

This example of serendipitous success is copied from the Girl Goodwill Facebook page because Maria Holdsworth tells the story better than I could. Maria is right in saying “It was my good fortune that I was there that day.” Her good fortune began with her own success in getting out of bed and keeping a schedule while unemployed. Maria’s success was also the other woman’s good fortune. The other woman went to the right place at the right time to benefit from Maria’s straightforward get-out-of-bed success. Anyone who benefits from the other woman’s success at her new job will also enjoy serendipitous success from Maria’s straightforward get-out-of-bed success.

Maria’s Story

While I was unemployed I participated In Fremont’s ProNet chapters. I was unemployed for 10 months and showing up at ProNet gave me a schedule and some days even the motivation to get moving in the morning.

One day, a woman feeling hopeless walked into the office needing someone to review her resume. It was my good fortune that I was there that day. Her resume was in order, it was her self-esteem that needed help. I was able to lift her spirits that day, to the point where she smiled…briefly. Literally a few hours after meeting her, she called me to let me know she received an offer from the job she had applied for. I’ll remember that for a long time.

I guess what I saw was someone who was barely holding it together. She had such a wall up when she walked into the office where I volunteered. She was so afraid of the unknown, which was the only promise in her future. She rejected my recommendations that networking were just as important as applying for jobs. I reminded her (in a polite way) that insanity by definition is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. She had been looking for work strictly by applying for jobs online but was afraid to go to Meetups or other networking events because that was time she felt she could be spending in front of the computer looking for work.

She asked me a question, I don’t recall specifically what she asked but it had to do with what I thought about her. I think it derived from talking about her in-person interview skills. So, I was honest with her and told her I didn’t find her at all rude, but simply unapproachable. We talked on the subject a little more and the greatest reward was that she smiled. I remember I touched her wrist/arm just to reassure her.

After a few weeks I got the following reply to an email I sent inquiring about her new job:

Don’t ever forget the impact you have on people like me.
You gave me encouragement to hang on a little longer and
I thank you so very much, Maria.

Final Thought

Maria now carries with her the inner satisfaction of knowing she made a positive impact on someone else’s life. Maria’s straightforward get-out-of-bed success sparked serendipitous success for the other woman, and the other woman’s serendipitous success sparked satisfying success for Maria.

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Hurricane Sandy Triggered Continuing Fundamental Failure

Originally published  January 29, 2014.

Revised and republished November 13, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation neglected or denied,
setting you up to fail despite your own efforts

In October 2012, Hurricane Sandy blew through several countries from the Caribbean up the eastern coast of the United States, killing more than 250 and leaving millions without power, homes, schools, or businesses. The storm set people up to fail at living normal lives despite their own efforts.

Years after Hurricane Sandy hit, many people were still experiencing fundamental failure because their insurance companies failed to give them money to rebuild and federal aid has been slow.

The fundamental failure caused by Sandy has been so overwhelming that many people are in counseling to help them cope. Despite their own efforts, their fundamental failure continues.

“Counseling available for Hurricane Sandy victims still reeling from storm”
Susan K. Livio
NJ Advance Media for NJ.com
November 21, 2013

“Hurricane Sandy Anniversary 2014: Billions Of Dollars In Federal Aid still Unpaid”
Angelo Young
International Business Times
October 29, 2014

“Hurricane Sandy Fast Facts”
CNN Library
CNN
October 3, 2015

“Many Hurricane Sandy insurance claimes closed without payment, data shows”
Ed Beeson
The Star Ledger
May 19, 2013

“Sandy Victims Who Entered FEMA Flood Insurance Review Process Months Ago Are Still Waiting For Claims To Be Processed”
RealEstateRama
November 2, 2015

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Satisfying Employee Straightforward Needs Satisfies Employer Straightforward Needs: Prescriptions & Productivity

Originally published January 15, 2014.

Revised and republished November 12, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

Pitney Bowes, Inc. (postage meters, mail machines, etc.) decided to pay for employee prescriptions for diabetes, hypertension, and asthma drugs. With their straightforward physical need for medications satisfied, the employees were able to spend more days on the job. These satisfied employees were able to satisfy the company’s straightforward need for more productivity. Pitney Bowes enjoyed a return on their investment within the first year.

The city of Asheville, North Carolina decided to pay for employee prescriptions for diabetic drugs. Satisfying employee’s straightforward physical need for their medications created such straightforward success for the city that Asheville began paying for hypertension and asthma drugs as well.

“Employers save by paying more for workers’ medicines”
Katie Merx
Stevens Point Journal
January 5, 2006

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