Spectacular Success On A Hot Summer Day

Spectacular Success
The unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create success for them.

Elaine Patterson hired a handyman to do odd jobs around her house on a hot summer day. When he was finished working, she invited him inside for a piece of pie and a cool drink. She created success for him with food, comfort, and respect. The handyman noticed that Elaine’s air conditioner wasn’t cooling as well as it should. The next day, the handyman created spectacular success for Elaine when he brought her a working replacement air conditioner. Elaine enjoyed the spectacular success of feeling cool in her house for many more hot summer days.

Circle of Kindness: “A welcome relief”
Elaine Patterson
Woman’s World
July 9, 2012

Paula M. Kramer
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Foolish Rudeness Ruins A Job Interview

Originally published September 3, 2014

Revised and republished July 20, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Ignoring opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you believe
your success depends on their failure

Driving to a job interview, a man passed another driver, cut the other driver off, and flipped his finger at the other driver. The rude man believed that his success in getting to the job interview depended on the other driver’s failure.

The rude man showed up for the interview only to discover that the interviewer was the other driver. The interviewer had already experienced this man’s rudeness on the highway. She knew that hiring him meant bringing his rudeness into her workplace. Since the man’s qualifications meant nothing compared to his foolish rudeness, he left without a job offer.

“All in a Day’s Work”
Reader’s Digest
November, 2012, page 30

Paula M. Kramer
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Smart Success Begins With Recognizing Equality

Originally published March 19, 2014.

Revised and republished April 13, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Smart Success
Seeing opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you understand that
your success is connected to their success

Freelance writer Louise Tutelian became a volunteer for Literacy Volunteers of America. She wrote a “Viewpoint” column for Glamour Magazine about the experience of tutoring middle-aged Tom to read. Tom had been sickly as a child, had missed months of school at a time, and since his school apparently didn’t help him catch up, quit at age 12.

Tutelian began the sessions with the expectation of “imparting some of the fruits of my knowledge to someone less fortunate than I.” She had to overcome the “glare from my halo” before she could recognize equality and start practicing smart success.

Tutelian did teach Tom to read, but much slower than she expected. In return, Tom taught Tutelian persistence. She had so much trouble getting her new computer to print out a chart she designed that she considered giving up and making the chart by hand. Then Tutelian remembered Tom persistently insisting that she drill him on sounding out the “m” and “n” sounds until he knew he could pronounce them correctly no matter when they appeared. Tutelian slowed down to Tom’s speed, “carefully reread the instructions”, and printed out her chart.

Tom also taught Tutelian to forget about focusing on big successes right away. Through Tom, Tutelian learned to be happy with the small successes that would eventually make the big successes possible.

Finally, Tom taught Tutelian to be grateful for everything she had taken for granted. Tom worked as a sanitation worker who had to drive trucks even though he could not read road signs. He had been cheated by his ex-wife because he couldn’t read insurance forms. He bought the wrong food at grocery stores because he could not read the packages. Tutelian easily read road signs to get where she wanted to go, read legal documents as she needed to, and brought home the food she wanted to eat. Tom needed to learn to read for survival. Tutelian stopped bringing in sports stories to teach Tom reading comprehension. Instead, she focused on the road signs and food packages Tom needed to read for survival.

It’s obvious to me that Tutelian learned a fourth lesson from Tom:

Effectiveness begins with satisfying basic needs.

Tutelian’s late blooming smart success left her feeling less “noble”, a feeling that hadn’t done her any good anyway. Recognizing her equality with Tom brought her serendipitous opportunities to benefit from what Tom could teach her about success.

“Teaching an Illiterate Taught Me Plenty”
Louise Tutelian
Glamour
March 1988, page 32

Paula M. Kramer
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Freaky Failure From Juvenile Firesetters

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time
to just by chance suffer a loss
because of someone else’s failure

Arson fires —  fires set deliberately — kill people, maim people, destroy property, and damage property. More than half of arson firesetters are children. Children start fires for a variety of reasons. Childhood trauma is one of them.

Firestarting children act in response to parents who are absent, distant, or uninvolved.
(page 7)

Traumatized children set fires to express anger toward fathers for abuse and toward mothers for rejection, neglect, or abandonment.
(pages 9, 10, 11)

Severely disturbed juvenile firesetters have often endured such neglect and dysfuntional relationships with their parents that they experience PTSD and General Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Setting fires is one way to release anxiety.
(page 12)

The National Fire Protection Association estimates for fires set during 2007 to 2011 include:

282,600 intentional fires reported to U.S. fire departments each year

420 civilian deaths

1,360 civilian injuries

$1.3 billion in direct property damage

Parents who neglect and abuse their children create negative feelings in their children. Neglected and abused children who need to express those negative feelings too often do so by setting fires. The failure of parents to satisfy their children’s needs can lead to freaky failure for victims of child firesetters.

“Intentional Fires”
Richard Campbell
National Fire Protection Association
April 2014

“Juvenile Firestarting: A Research Overview”
Charles T. Putnam and John T. Kirkpatrick
Juvenile Justice Bulletin
May 2005

“Trauma Symptoms and Social Skills Deficits in Juvenile Firesetters”
Donna Fogg
Pacific University CommonKnowledge
July 24, 2009

Paula M. Kramer
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Gatorade’s Serendipitous Success Stretches Back 100s Of Years

Originally published January 28, 2015.

Revised and republished February 28, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time
to just by chance benefit from
someone else’s success

Do you enjoy drinking Gatorade? If so, your enjoyment is serendipitous success stemming from the straightforward success of ordinary people in Bangladesh. Hundreds of years ago, Bangladeshis created straightforward success for cholera victims by giving them carbohydrates and sugar to keep them hydrated. Western doctors who had gone to Bangladesh to help during a cholera outbreak were astonished to see how effective the local treatment was. According to Western medicine at the time, giving carbohydrates and sugar to diarrhea patients would worsen their diarrhea. Ordinary Bangladeshis proved that to be wrong.

The doctors published a paper about the effective treatment in a British medical journal. Doctors at the University of Florida saw the article. They blended carbohydrates and sugar in a drink to hydrate football players on the university’s football team, the Gators.

“The World As R+D Lab: How to recognize great ideas from developing countries—and bring them home”
Vijay Govindarajan
Inc. Magazine
May 2012, pages 98-100

Paula M. Kramer
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Stereotyping Children Creates Fundamental Failure

Originally published August 6, 2014.

Revised and republished February 24, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs in a
particular situation neglected or denied, setting you up
to fail despite your own efforts

Children with dental problems that go untreated can be “distracted” by their pain and “easily agitated” in school. The stereotyping explanation for teachers and school administrators is that easily agitated children are exhibiting behavior problems. Strategies to end behavior problems will not alleviate dental pain. Neglecting dental problems sets up children in pain to fail despite their own efforts.

“50 Secrets From Your Dentist”
Chris Woolston
Reader’s Digest
July 2009

Paula M. Kramer
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Straightforward Success From Slices Of Pizza

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

One day, a customer at Rosa’s Fresh Pizza in Philadelphia asked the owner of the store a question that launched pay-it-forward pizza. The customer wanted to know if he could buy a slice of pizza for a homeless person. Owner Mason Wartman said yes.

A slice of pizza at Rosa’s costs $1. By July 8, 2015, customers of Rosa’s had bought more than 10,000 slices of pizza for their homeless neighbors. The wall is now covered with Post-it notes. Notes to redeem for free slices of pizza. Notes of encouragement from the people who buy the pizza. Notes of gratitude from people who now have the security of having something to eat everyday.

With pizza in their stomachs, some of the homeless customers succeeded at getting jobs through their own efforts. Other homeless customers stopped committing petty crimes to get money for food. Homeless customers offer to sweep the restaurant floor or take out the garbage. Wartman hired three homeless people to work in his pizza shop, giving them the chance they wanted to work hard. For Wartman they are “who I want here.”

“A customer walked into his pizza shop and changed Philadelphia with $1 and a single Post-it note.”
Maz Ali
upworthy.com

“Philadelphia Pizza Lovers Pay It Forward One Slice At A Time”
Elizabeth Fiedler
NPR
January 15, 2015

“The Pizza Man”
Reader’s Digest
July 8, 2015

Paula M. Kramer
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Satisfying Needs Leads to Straightforward Success Instead Of Juvenile Delinquency

Originally published July 23, 2014.

Republished February 17, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

In 2005, the University of Wisconsin–Madison Schools of Human Ecology and Social Work and the University of Wisconsin–Extension, Cooperative Extension submitted a report to Wisconsin Governor’s Juvenile Justice Commission and the Wisconsin Office of Justice Assistance about the most cost-effective programs for preventing juvenile delinquency. These programs satisfied the social, emotional, and educational needs of children, parents, and families. Children who went through these programs with their parents and families were likely to become effective adults in society.

The most cost effective prevention programs included:

preschool education

home visitation programs

parent education

social and emotional learning programs for school-aged children

The programs satisfied needs effectively because:

quality and intensity of services were high

staff members were well trained

program visions were well articulated with strong conceptual bases

The community accountability programs and therapeutic interventions were most effective when they lasted long periods of time, but they still cost far less than incarcerating juveniles. Satisfying the needs of children, parents, and families allowed the children to create straightforward success for themselves.

“What Works, Wisconsin: What Science Tells Us about Cost-Effective Programs for Juvenile Delinquency Prevention”
Stephen A. Small, Arthur J. Reynolds, Cailin O’Connor, and Siobhan M. Cooney
University of Wisconsin-Madison Schools of Human Ecology and
Social Work
University of Wisconsin-Extension, Cooperative Extension
June 2005

Paula M. Kramer
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Eric Cantor’s Blunder Backfired Him Into An Historic Defeat

Originally published June 25, 2014.

Republished November 25, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Blunder Backfire
Your neglect for other people’s needs and passions
backfires onto you as unforeseen blunders

Eric Cantor began serving as the Congressional Representative for Virginia’s 7th district in 2001. He became House Majority Leader in 2011. He seemed headed to succeed John Boehner as Speaker of the House. As time passed, however, Cantor chose “dealmaking” with Republican leaders over “wooing” voters in his district. His staff was “consistently described as aloof”. Community events in his home district became less important than exclusive events all over the country. Cantor ignored the needs and passions of his constituents to focus on his own need and passion for power.

Eric Cantor blundered with his constituents. His blunder backfired into a history making first. Cantor’s blunder made him the first House Majority Leader in history to lose a renomination bid for his position.

“Eric Cantor Falls to Shock Defeat in Primary”
Jack Fitzpatrick and Alex Roarty
National Journal
June 10, 2014

“A Surprising Loss for Unsurprising Reasons”
Ford O’Connell
U.S. News & World Report
June 14, 2014

“Why Cantor chose Bobby Van’s”
Byron Tau
Politico
June 11, 2014

Paula M. Kramer
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A Benefit That Boomeranged Back & Out

Originally published June 11, 2014.

Revised and republished November 24, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Benefit Boomerang
Your respect for other people’s needs and passions
boomerangs back to you as unforeseen benefits

Hairstylist David Wagner had a client who came in every five weeks. One day, the client came in for a styling weeks early. When Wagner asked about her evening plans, she said she wanted to look and feel good that night.

Wagner gave his client a great scalp massage, shampooed her hair, styled her hair, joked with her, and laughed with her. She hugged him goodbye.

Days later, Wagner received a letter from this client. The client had intended to commit suicide the night of the last styling. She wanted to look good for her funeral. Having no idea what he was doing for the woman, Wagner provided enough respect for her needs and passions that she felt her life could get better. She got treatment and changed her life.

The respect Wagner gave his client boomeranged back to him as a revelation that he had the power to make a difference in the lives of other people. Wagner then boomeranged the benefit out. He launched Daymaker Movement, wrote the book Life As A Daymaker, and continues to respect the needs and passions of other people. Wagner still thanks his client for her letter because of what her letter did for his life. And Daymakers around the world take intentional acts of good will everyday, creating ever more benefit boomerangs.

Paula M. Kramer
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