Introductions Boomerang Back As Beneficial Invitations

Benefit Boomerang
Your respect for other people’s needs and passions
boomerangs back to you as unforeseen benefits

Marie Forleo of Marie Forleo International got her first job after college because of a customer to the bar where she bartended. The customer asked what Marie wanted to do. Marie wanted to work on Wall Street. The customer’s brother-in-law worked on Wall Street. The customer took Marie’s resume to her brother-in-law, and Marie’s first job after college was on Wall Street.

Taking that beginning to heart, Marie began introducing people to each other for their mutual benefit. Those introductions boomeranged back to Marie as invitations to appear with Oprah Winfrey and Anthony Robbins. Marie’s philanthropy brought an invitation from Richard Branson. Branson introduced Marie to a woman he thought could help Marie’s career.

Marie Forleo’s introductions for the benefit of others boomeranged back to her with benefits she never expected.

“Marie Forleo and the High Art of People Pleasing”
Leigh Buchanan
Inc. Magazine
August 20, 2014

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A Family, An Employer, Social Media Companies, Web Host Providers, and A Government Find Fault After Charlottesville

Finding Fault Failure
Other people responding negatively to you
because you create a failure they detest

Several alt-right groups came together in Charlottesville, Virginia on August 12, 2017 “to show a unified front.” The alt-right groups wanted “to move their community from the virtual world into the real one.” The rally was a protest against Charlottesville’s city government plan to remove a statue of Confederate General Robert E. Lee. The protest became violent. James Alex Fields drove his car into a group of counter protesters, killing 32 year old Heather Heyer and injuring 19 others. @YesYoureRacist identified several of the white supremacists at the rally,

Peter Tefft

Horrified to learn of his son’s involvement, Pearce Tefft wrote an open letter denouncing Peter’s “vile, hateful and racist rhetoric and actions.” Mr. Tefft went even further:

“Peter Tefft, my son, is not welcome at our family gatherings any
longer. I pray my prodigal son will renounce his hateful beliefs
and return home. Then and only then will I lay out the feast.”

Cole White

Torch bearing white supremacist Cole White lost his job at Top Dog, a Berkeley, California restaurant. Top Dog management posted this sign outside the restaurant:

“Effective Saturday 12th August, Cole White no longer works
at Top Dog.” The actions of those in Charlottesville are not
supported by Top Dog. We believe in individual freedom and
voluntary association for everyone.”

The Daily Stormer

The Daily Stormer is a neo-Nazi website. After the rally, Daily Stormer founder Andrew Anglin posted an article disparaging rally murder victim Heather Heyer:

“drain on society”

“the definition of uselessness”

“Most people are glad she is dead.”

GoDaddy gave The Daily Stormer 24 hours to find another web host. Google rejected The Daily Stormer as well, as did a Russian web host, as did DreamHost.

Russian web host Ru-Center suspended Daily Stormer after an official government inquiry. Russia’s government media regulator, Roskomnadzor, wrote Ru-Center asking the company to:

“to look into [the] possibility of register suspension due to
extremist content of this domain.”

Social media companies Facebook and Reddit banned far right extremist groups and removed links to pages posted by far right extremists. Facebook removed all links to The Daily Stormer post attacking the Charlottesville rally murder victim, Heather Heyer.

Extreme words and actions prompt extreme finding fault responses.

“Daily Stormer jumps to dark web while Reddit and Facebook ban hate groups”
Samuel Gibbs
The Guardian
August 16, 2017

“Easy come, easy go Daily Stormer briefly reappears on DreamHost before disappearing again”
Devin Coldeway
TechCrunch
August 24, 2017

“GoDaddy — then Google — ban neo-Nazi site Daily Stormer for disparaging Charlottesville victim”
Katie Mettler and Avi SelkThe Washington Post
August 14, 2017

“’I Refuse to Let Them Win.’ Meet the Activist Exposing Charlottesville White Supremacists on Twitter”
Melissa Chan
Time Magazine
August 15, 2017

“Letter: Family denounces Tefft’s racist rhetoric and actions”
Pearce Tefft
INFORUM
August 14, 2017

“A man lost his job after a photo of him at the deadly Charlottesville white-supremacist rally went viral”
Hayley Peterson
Business Insider
Aug. 14, 2017

“Russian Web Host Suspends Daily Stormer After Government Inquiry”
Carl Schreck
RadioFreeEurope
RadioLiberty
August 17, 2017

‘”’Unite The Right’: Charlottesville Rally Represented Collection Of Alt-Right Groups”
“All Things Considered” with host Audie Cornish
NPR
August 15, 2017

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Spotlighting Standout Success For Alexander Knoll Because He Sparks Straightforward Success

When he was about age nine, Alex Knoll of Post Falls, Washington saw a man in a wheelchair struggle to open a door to his grandparents’ store. Alex looked for an app that would give people information about access before they left their homes. He found none, so he decided to create one.

Ability App will include information on:

Locations of wheelchair ramps

Accessible boat launches

Accessible hiking trails

Locations friendly to service animals

Restaurants with Braille menus

Grocery delivery

Occupational therapy

Transportation and mobility

Job listings

And more

Alex wants to include voice-activation and eye-tracking features in his app. The Ability App will spark straightforward success for people who have difficulty participating in the world.

Spotlights for Alex Knoll’s standout success include:

Won best in show at Invent Idaho
2014

Explained his app To Governor Butch Otter, first lady Lori Otter, and state lawmakers in Boise, Idaho.

Won Grand Champion at I Cubed
2014

Gave presentation to Think Big Festival in Coeur d/Alene
2014

Gave presentation to University of Idaho computer sciences students and faculty in Moscow, Idaho.

Addressed teachers at the North Idaho STEM Charter Academy in Rathdrum, Idaho

Shared Ability App at Web Summit in Dublin, Ireland
2015

Marc Boudria of Chaotic Moon Studios gave Knoll insights on improving the user experience.

Guy Fraker of Senndex in Illinois offered to partner with Knoll to provide background checks on service providers included in the app.

Met with Christine Fox of the Johns Hopkins University Applied Physics Laboratory in Laurel, Maryland.

Appeared on The Ellen DeGeneres Show where Ellen presented Alex with a $25,000 check to help
him launch his app.

The spotlights for Alexander Knoll will likely increase as people use it and participate more frequently in the world around them.

“Young inventor’s Ability App gains traction”
Scott Maben
The Spokesman-Review
October 14, 2015

“Young Post Falls inventor meets his hero, Ellen DeGeneres, leaves with $25,000”
Scott Maben
The Spokesman-Review
May 25, 2017

Paula M. Kramer
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Fanatical Failure From Denying Historical Facts

Fanatical Failure
Obsessively working against others and depriving others
to satisfy your need to prove that your beliefs equal truth

British historian David Irving has spent much of his life denying the existence of the holocaust. His claims include the following:

Hitler intended only to deport the Jews, not kill them.

Hitler did not know about the extermination of six million Jews.

Because of his claims, David Irving has been “jailed, discredited and bankrupted”.

In 1993, American academic Professor Deborah Lipstadt wrote Denying The Holocaust: The Growing Assault on Truth and Memory. She named Irving as:

“a denier, falsifier and bigot, arguing that he distorted and
manipulated real documents to retell history with his own
prejudice.”

In 1996, David Irving filed a libel suit in the United Kingdom against Professor Lipstadt and her publisher, Penguin Books. He claimed that the book caused U.S. publishers to decide against publishing his biography of Joseph Goebbels.

In 2000, the U.K. High Court heard the case. David Irving lost. People around the world paid attention to this trial. Mr. Justice Gray wrote this in summary of his findings:

“Irving has for his own ideological reasons persistently and
deliberately misrepresented and manipulated historical evidence;
that for the same reasons he has portrayed Hitler in an
unwarrantedly favourable light, principally in relation to his attitude
towards and responsibility for the treatment of the Jews; that he is
an active Holocaust denier; that he is anti-Semitic and racist, and
that he associates with right-wing extremists who promote
neo-Nazism… therefore the defence of justification succeeds…
It follows that there must be judgment for the Defendants.

Irving’s fanaticism left him publicly humiliated. His humiliation is now available for all to see in the movie, Denial.

However, people are finding Irving’s “lectures” about the Holocaust online. He has young supporters. Those young supporters face their own fanatical failure in the future.

“Antisemite, Holocaust denier … yet David Irving claims fresh support”
Carole Cadwalladr
The Guardian
January 15, 2017

“David Irving and why the Holocaust went on trial”
The Telegraph
January 6, 2017

Irving v Penguin Books Ltd
Wikipedia

“London library makes denying the Holocaust a little harder”
Danica Kirka
The Christian Science Monitor
April 21, 2017

“Still spouting poison As Hollywood makes a movie about his views, how Holocaust denier David Irving continues to pervert history (and make money while he’s at it)
David Jones
The Daily Mail
December 3, 2016

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McDonald’s Went Back To Basics

Sustained Success
Staying on the path of working with others and satisfying others
or returning to a path of working with others and satisfying others
after mistakenly leaving it

Fast food giant McDonald’s first restaurant started out featuring slow-cooked barbecued beef, ham, or pork sandwiches with French fries. The menu also offered “everything from tamales and chili to peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to ham and baked beans” and an “aristocratic hamburger”.

When it became obvious that hamburgers were their bestsellers, founders Maurice and Richard McDonald closed the restaurant for three months. They overhauled their business to a self-service restaurant with assembly line production based on specific tasks with many items preassembled. The menu offered only “hamburgers, cheeseburgers, three soft drink flavors in one 12-ounce size, milk, coffee, potato chips and pie.” The new restaurant focused on speed, lower prices, and volume. However, the real success for McDonald’s began only with the brothers replaced potato chips with French fries and added triple-thick milkshakes. Franchises followed in California and Arizona.

Ray Kroc bought the rights to franchise McDonald’s across the country. His first retaurant opened in 1955 in Des Plaines, Illinois. He kept the assembly line, but added automation, standardization, and discipline. New franchisees owners attened Hamburger University in Elk Grove, Illinois. Frank Turner established Hamburger University and wrote the training manual. He succeeded Kroc as chairman.

McDonald’s sales began to fall with competition, nutritional concerns, labor violations, and concerns about cutting rainforests for beef production. In 2007, McDonald’s began expanding its menu. This expansion led to unhappy customers, unhappy franchise owners, and lower sales.

McDonald’s sustained its success “by simply reverting to being McDonald’s again.” Those values were value, quality, and simplicity.

McDonald’s returned to its spectacular success by driving costs so low it could introduce the dollar menu, focusing on food quality and cleanliness, then adding just a few new items to the menu, such as salads and coffee. McDonald’s began removing antibiotics and other ingredients and launched a program to advance sustainable beef production. McDonald’s also returned power to franchise owners. “By putting more restaurants in the hands of our best owner/operators, we’re getting closer to the communities and customers we serve,” CEO Steve Easterbrook.

“The result? From a low of about $12 a share and rampant fears that health-conscious consumers were abandoning the restaurant to a stock price of over $67 and acknowledged leadership in the global restaurant wars.”

“Biggest Corporate Comebacks”
Stephen Simpson
Forbes
June 22, 2010

“McDonald’s Is Cutting A Ton Of Menu Items”
Ashley Lutz
Business Insider
December 10, 2014

“7 mistakes that led to McDonald’s downfall”
Hayley Peterson
Business Insider
May 4, 2015,

“Greenpeace: McDonald’s Fueling Rainforest Destruction”
Associated Press
April 07, 2006

“McDonald’s slide continues as it finalizes plans for turnaround”
Jessica Wohl
April 22, 2015
Chicago Tribune

“McDonald’s Surprising Start, 75 Years Ago
Xheiarophwe Klein
History Channel
May 15, 2015

“Why McDonald’s Is Banking On Sustainable Beef”
Steve Banker
Forbes
October 16, 2015

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Full-Blown Failure: Using The Past To Take Revenge In The Present

Full-Blown Failure
The unforeseen failure other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create failure for them

College student Summer and several girlfriends decided to go on spring break together, splitting the cost of hotel and car rentals. One of the girlfriends, Liz, changed her mind at the last minute to spend time with new boyfriend Pete. Liz was unconcerned and unapologetic about the financial burden this placed on “strapped for cash” Summer and the other spring break cohorts.

To take revenge, Summer invited some spring break cohorts and Pete over to watch favorite sitcoms on a night Liz had to do job work. Summer and her spring break cohorts told Pete “scandalous stories” from Liz’s past, including her “weird habits” and participation in “sketchy situations”. The stories were enough to convince Pete to break up with Liz. Pete even told Liz she needed professional help.

Liz intentionally created failure for her friends because of Pete, so her friends intentionally created failure for her relationship with Pete.

“Confessions”
Cosmopolitan Magazine
January 2004, page 20

Paula M. Kramer
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Spectacular Success On A Hot Summer Day

Spectacular Success
The unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create success for them.

Elaine Patterson hired a handyman to do odd jobs around her house on a hot summer day. When he was finished working, she invited him inside for a piece of pie and a cool drink. She created success for him with food, comfort, and respect. The handyman noticed that Elaine’s air conditioner wasn’t cooling as well as it should. The next day, the handyman created spectacular success for Elaine when he brought her a working replacement air conditioner. Elaine enjoyed the spectacular success of feeling cool in her house for many more hot summer days.

Circle of Kindness: “A welcome relief”
Elaine Patterson
Woman’s World
July 9, 2012

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Foolish Rudeness Ruins A Job Interview

Originally published September 3, 2014

Revised and republished July 20, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Foolish Failure
Ignoring opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you believe
your success depends on their failure

Driving to a job interview, a man passed another driver, cut the other driver off, and flipped his finger at the other driver. The rude man believed that his success in getting to the job interview depended on the other driver’s failure.

The rude man showed up for the interview only to discover that the interviewer was the other driver. The interviewer had already experienced this man’s rudeness on the highway. She knew that hiring him meant bringing his rudeness into her workplace. Since the man’s qualifications meant nothing compared to his foolish rudeness, he left without a job offer.

“All in a Day’s Work”
Reader’s Digest
November, 2012, page 30

Paula M. Kramer
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Smart Success Begins With Recognizing Equality

Originally published March 19, 2014.

Revised and republished April 13, 2016 after a web host transfer.

Smart Success
Seeing opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you understand that
your success is connected to their success

Freelance writer Louise Tutelian became a volunteer for Literacy Volunteers of America. She wrote a “Viewpoint” column for Glamour Magazine about the experience of tutoring middle-aged Tom to read. Tom had been sickly as a child, had missed months of school at a time, and since his school apparently didn’t help him catch up, quit at age 12.

Tutelian began the sessions with the expectation of “imparting some of the fruits of my knowledge to someone less fortunate than I.” She had to overcome the “glare from my halo” before she could recognize equality and start practicing smart success.

Tutelian did teach Tom to read, but much slower than she expected. In return, Tom taught Tutelian persistence. She had so much trouble getting her new computer to print out a chart she designed that she considered giving up and making the chart by hand. Then Tutelian remembered Tom persistently insisting that she drill him on sounding out the “m” and “n” sounds until he knew he could pronounce them correctly no matter when they appeared. Tutelian slowed down to Tom’s speed, “carefully reread the instructions”, and printed out her chart.

Tom also taught Tutelian to forget about focusing on big successes right away. Through Tom, Tutelian learned to be happy with the small successes that would eventually make the big successes possible.

Finally, Tom taught Tutelian to be grateful for everything she had taken for granted. Tom worked as a sanitation worker who had to drive trucks even though he could not read road signs. He had been cheated by his ex-wife because he couldn’t read insurance forms. He bought the wrong food at grocery stores because he could not read the packages. Tutelian easily read road signs to get where she wanted to go, read legal documents as she needed to, and brought home the food she wanted to eat. Tom needed to learn to read for survival. Tutelian stopped bringing in sports stories to teach Tom reading comprehension. Instead, she focused on the road signs and food packages Tom needed to read for survival.

It’s obvious to me that Tutelian learned a fourth lesson from Tom:

Effectiveness begins with satisfying basic needs.

Tutelian’s late blooming smart success left her feeling less “noble”, a feeling that hadn’t done her any good anyway. Recognizing her equality with Tom brought her serendipitous opportunities to benefit from what Tom could teach her about success.

“Teaching an Illiterate Taught Me Plenty”
Louise Tutelian
Glamour
March 1988, page 32

Paula M. Kramer
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Freaky Failure From Juvenile Firesetters

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time
to just by chance suffer a loss
because of someone else’s failure

Arson fires —  fires set deliberately — kill people, maim people, destroy property, and damage property. More than half of arson firesetters are children. Children start fires for a variety of reasons. Childhood trauma is one of them.

Firestarting children act in response to parents who are absent, distant, or uninvolved.
(page 7)

Traumatized children set fires to express anger toward fathers for abuse and toward mothers for rejection, neglect, or abandonment.
(pages 9, 10, 11)

Severely disturbed juvenile firesetters have often endured such neglect and dysfuntional relationships with their parents that they experience PTSD and General Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Setting fires is one way to release anxiety.
(page 12)

The National Fire Protection Association estimates for fires set during 2007 to 2011 include:

282,600 intentional fires reported to U.S. fire departments each year

420 civilian deaths

1,360 civilian injuries

$1.3 billion in direct property damage

Parents who neglect and abuse their children create negative feelings in their children. Neglected and abused children who need to express those negative feelings too often do so by setting fires. The failure of parents to satisfy their children’s needs can lead to freaky failure for victims of child firesetters.

“Intentional Fires”
Richard Campbell
National Fire Protection Association
April 2014

“Juvenile Firestarting: A Research Overview”
Charles T. Putnam and John T. Kirkpatrick
Juvenile Justice Bulletin
May 2005

“Trauma Symptoms and Social Skills Deficits in Juvenile Firesetters”
Donna Fogg
Pacific University CommonKnowledge
July 24, 2009

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