Full-Blown Failure Can Get Yucky

Full-Blown Failure
The unforeseen failure other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create failure for them

Clothing designer Dana Roslan brought cookies for her lunches, only to have them stolen by a coworker. Frustrated, Roslan bought dog biscuits that looked like biscotti and set the trap. She said her only remorse was “not being able to see his face after he ate the bait.”

Dana Roslan intentionally created yucky failure for her coworker
because coworker intentionally created cookie failure for her.

“Irritations spur creative revenge”
Ian Urbina
The Seattle Times
March 21, 2005, page 7A

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A Grandson Creates Spectacular Success For His Grandmother

Spectacular Success
The unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create success for them.

Janice Sparhawk of Stevens Point, Wisconsin doted on her only biological grandchild, Noah Lamaide, and foster parented close to 100 children. After putting a new roof on her house and enduring health problems, Janice fell behind on her mortgage payments. Her house went into foreclosure and the bank scheduled an auction. Noah learned about the foreclosure when he overheard a conversation between his mother and grandmother.

Noah had already collected food for a food bank. He had already raised money on Noah’s Dream Catcher Network for a picnic at a veteran’s nursing home. He had already raised money to send a friend of his to Disney World with her terminally ill mother.

Noah’s success with Noah’s Dream Catcher Network helped him create spectacular success for Janice. Noah knew how to raise money for good causes and immediately used his already established network presence to raise money for his grandmother. Noah sent out a plea for the $10,000 his grandmother needed to keep her home. Days before the scheduled auction, Noah had raised $10,500.

Noah Lamaide intentionally created unforeseen success
for his doting grandmother
because his doting grandmother
intentionally created success for him.

Any foster child who stays with Janice Sparhawk since her spectacular success also enjoys serendipitous success. Without Noah, they might not have had a foster mother to take them in.

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time to just by chance
benefit from Janice Sparhawk’s success in keeping her house

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 Paula M. Kramer
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Basketball’s Three Point Foolish Failure Attitude Towards Jeremy Lin

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success
in people who are different from you
because you do not understand that
your success is connected to their success

First Point Foolish Failure Attitude

Scouting methodology that focuses on:

Watching videotape to see who “runs really fast, jumps really high, does the quick, easy thing to evaluate”

Predraft workouts to watch for skill work, shooting, and one or two on two or three on three

Second Point Foolish Failure Attitude

Asians are poor athletes.

Third Point Foolish Failure Attitude

Ivy League schools do not produce great athletes.

Failure To See Opportunities

These foolish failure attitudes put Lin in the NBA D-League three times. Coaches passed him over or put him in a back up spot. Finally able to show his stuff for the Knicks, Lin led “a turnaround of an 8–15 team that had lost 11 of its last 13 games.” In short order, “Lin became the first NBA player to score at least 20 points and have seven assists in each of his first five starts.”

Taiwanese American and Harvard grad Jeremy Lin does not do “anything that’s extra flashy or freakishly athletic”, but he is savvy in scoring, assists, steals, blocked shots, field-goal percentage, and free-throw percentage.

How many other valuable players have been left in the D-League or on the bench by basketball’s three point foolish failure attitude?

Other kinds of foolish failure are possible in basketball. Signed to the Houston Rockets, one of Jeremy Lin’s teammates is James Harden. Lin and Harden are good at the same things. They each play their best when the other one does not play. Someone needs to identify a smarter way to use all of their skills all of the time.

Coaches failed to see opportunities for team success
in an Asian player who did not play the stereotyped way
because they did not understand how
how Jeremy Lin’s success was connected to their success.

“Jeremy Lin: Fernando Valenzuela understands Lin-Sanity first hand”
Daniel Brown
San Jose Mercury News
February 16, 2012

“An All-Around Talent, Obscured by His Pedigree”
Chuck Culpepper
The New York Times
September 14, 2010

“From Couch To Clutch”
Pablo S. Torre
Sports Illustrated
February 20, 2012

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A Banker’s Smart Success Attitude Brought Her An Angel In Her Time Of Need

 Smart Success
Seeing opportunities for serendipitous success
in people who are different from you
because you understand that
your success is connected to their success

When homeless Curtis Jackson asked a suburban Chicago banker for money, the banker always treated him with respect. She was smart enough to have the attitude that even homeless people are valuable.

Then the banker lost her job and home and almost her son when Children’s Services threatened to take him away from her.

Curtis Jackson, the homeless man who appreciated the banker’s respectful attitude, began panhandling to keep the banker and her son in a motel. He took what he collected — minus money for food and bus fare — to the banker’s motel every night. From December 2011 to May 2012, he gave her $9,000. He told a reporter that he planned to keep helping the former banker until she no longer needed help. The homeless man other people ignored became an “angel” for the banker and her son.

The banker’s attitude of respect
for the homeless man’s needs
gave him a reason to respect
her need for help during her homelessness.

“Homeless man who befriended banker begs to pay for her hotel after she loses her job and house”
Daniel Bates
Daily Mail
May 12, 2011

“Panhandler Helps Homeless Banker Who Respected Him”
Martin Gould
Newsmax
May 12, 2011

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School Anxiety In Children Causes Freaky Failure In Adults

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time to just by chance
suffer a loss because of someone else’s failure

Test anxiety faces every child who takes the minimum 17 exams from 3rd through 12th grade because of No Child Left Behind. Some students are faced with extra anxiety because of stereotypes. Girls face stereotypes that they cannot do well on math and science. Blacks and Latinos face stereotypes that they could not do well in college.

If parents and teachers fail to help children cope with their anxiety, students do not do as well on exams as they could. If children never get help with their anxiety, their performance will continue at less than their potential. When they somehow enter your life as adults (employees at a business you frequent, employees at a service provider you use, your colleague on the job), whatever they bring into your life will be less than what their potential was. You are then in the right place at the right time to just by chance suffer the loss of their best because parents and teachers failed to ease test nxiety in children.

Being in the wrong  place at the wrong time to just by chance
suffer a loss from adults who experienced
unrelieved test anxiety as school children.

“A Depressing Reason Sixth-Grade Girls Score Lower in Math Than Boys”
Melissa Dahl
New York Magazine
September 2, 2015

“Lower Expectations And Stereotypes, Biggest Challenges For Latino Students”
John Benson
Huffington Post
January 14, 2013

“Thin Ice: “Stereotype Threat” and Black College Students”
Claude M. Steele
The Atlantic
August 1999

“The Relation of Early Adolescent Anxieties To Young Adults Occupational Self-concepts”
Mina N. Vida & Jacquelynne S. Eccles
University of Michigan

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The Serendipitous Benefit of Laurene Powell’s Sunflower Success

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time to just by chance
benefit from someone else’s success

Laurene Powell planted a garden, including a bed of of sunflowers.

Laurene’s husband was Steve Jobs. Steve and industrial designer Jony Ives walked through Laurene’s garden where they admired the sunflowers and how the flowers seemed to float above the plants.

Inspired, Jobs and Ive designed the sunflower iMac with the floating screen above a rounded base. Laurene Powell’s successful sunflower bed created serendipitous success for Steve Jobs, Jony Ive, and every Apple customer who enjoyed using a sunflower iMac.

Being an iMac buyer at the right time to just by chance
benefit from Laureen Powell’s sunflower bed success

“Steve Jobs Didn’t Invent Design, But He Patented It”
NPR Staff
National Public Radio
May 13, 2012

I used a sunflower iMac for more than 10 years. I still have it.)

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Setting Poor Children Up For Fundamental Failure

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation neglected or denied,
setting you up to fail despite your own effort

The United States, a economically rich country, is doing less to provide its poorest children with the basics for survival. Federal and state governments limit or cut funding for health care and food, neglecting the physical needs of its poorest children.

Because their physical needs are neglected, these children live with health problems which in turn create education problems. They are more likely to endure poor health as adults, including cardio-vascular disease.

Because neglect of their physical needs prevents children from reaching their mental potential, these children do poorly in school and have low skills.

The parents of poor families work at such low wages that they have to work long hours. Those long hours mean parents can spend very little time with their children. They have little time or energy to satisfy children’s emotional needs. Because their emotional needs are neglected, these children have lower aspirations and earn less money as adults.

These children grow into adults with weak physical health, weak mental skills, and weak emotional resources. Neglect has set them up to fail despite their own efforts. Their failure means they are more likely to create freaky failure for other people rather than serendipitous success.

Neglecting the physical, mental, and emotional needs
of poor children
sets them up to fail despite their own efforts.

“The Children Left Behind: A league table of inequality in child well-being in the world’s rich countries”
UNICEF
Innocenti Report Card 9

“Enduring influence of childhood poverty”
Katherine Magnuson and Elizabeth Votruba-Drzal
Focus
Volume 26, Number 2, Fall 2009

“How Youth Are Put At Risk by Parents’ Low-Wage Jobs”
Center for Social Policy
Lisa Dodson, Randy Albelda, Diana Salas Coronado, and Marya Mtshall

“Poor Oral Health Can Mean Missed School, Lower Grades”
ADA (American Dental Association)
2020

“Poverty Threatens no Only Children’s Health, but also Their Education”
Shelley Callahan
Children Incorporated
April 23, 2018

“Rich countries letting poorest children fall, says new report”
UNICEF
“Report Card 9 – The Children Left Behind”
December 3, 2010

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Satisfying Needs Leads to Straightforward Success Instead Of Juvenile Delinquency

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

In 2005, the University of Wisconsin–Madison Schools of Human Ecology and Social Work and the University of Wisconsin–Extension, Cooperative Extension submitted a report to Wisconsin Governor’s Juvenile Justice Commission and the Wisconsin Office of Justice Assistance about the most cost-effective programs for preventing juvenile delinquency. These programs satisfied the social, emotional, and educational needs of children, parents, and families. Children who went through these programs with their parents and families were likely to become effective adults in society.

The most cost effective prevention programs included:

preschool education

home visitation programs

parent education

social and emotional learning programs for school-aged children

The programs satisfied needs effectively because:

quality and intensity of services were high

staff members were well trained

program visions were well articulated with strong conceptual bases

The community accountability programs and therapeutic interventions were most effective when they lasted long periods of time, but they still cost far less than incarcerating juveniles. Satisfying the needs of children, parents, and families allowed the children to create straightforward success for themselves.

Satisfying the physical, mental, and emotional needs
of preschool and school-aged children
sets them up to succeed through their own efforts.

“What Works, Wisconsin: What Science Tells Us about Cost-Effective Programs for Juvenile Delinquency Prevention”
Stephen A. Small, Arthur J. Reynolds, Cailin O’Connor, and Siobhan M. Cooney
University of Wisconsin-Madison Schools of Human Ecology and
Social Work
University of Wisconsin-Extension, Cooperative Extension
June 2005

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Being Perfect For The Job Couldn’t Overcome A Perfect Opportunity For Revenge

Full-Blown Failure
The unforeseen failure other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create failure for them

Twenty year old Shawn spent a summer working for his uncle. The uncle operated the managing branch of a successful oil rig firm. Shawn’s job was to enter prospective resumes into a database. His uncle had asked him to put aside promising resumes.

One resume revealed an applicant who was “perfect for the job” with “great credentials”, “impressive references”, and a “stellar academic record”. The applicant, however, was a “pompous jerk” who had “terrorized” Shawn “all the time” through high school.

Pompous Jerk had foolishly failed to see an opportunity for serendipitous success in knowing Shawn. By creating failure for Shawn, the pompous jerk invited Shawn to create failure for him. Shawn accepted the invitation. He ripped up the application and threw it in the garbage.

No interview was the unforeseen failure Shawn created for Pompous Jerk
because Pompous Jerk intentionally created failure for Shawn.

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success
in people who are different from you because you
believe your success depends on their failure

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time
to just by chance benefit from someone else’s success

Examples of full-blown failure reveal that many of them are created behind an individual’s back. The pompous jerk probably never knew how Shawn took revenge on his life.

Cosmopolitan Magazine
“Guy Confessions”
August 2004, page 38

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Paula M. Kramer
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Standout Success For “The Best Damn Ship In The Navy”

Standout Success
Other people responding positively to you
because you created a success they value

This is post #5 of 5 USS Benfold posts to help you understand
how one type of success sparks other types of success.

Benfold‘s crew practiced marksmanship with Tomahawk missiles “all the way across the western Pacific” on its way to the Persian Gulf. Benfold performed this task better than all other ships in the Gulf. Captain D. Michael Abrashoff’s boss gave Benfold enough cruise missiles to make it the “biggest arsenal in the fleet”.

General Anthony Zinni, the four-star Marine in command of the entire Middle East force, gave a speech at the Navy’s birthday ball about how the commanding officers on the Benfold gave sailors the freedom to assume major responsibilities. The party was Benfold‘s “day to shine.” Benfold began earning its reputation as the “go-to ship in the Persian Gulf”.

General Anthony Zinni responded positively to  Benfold’s officers
because those officers created a success he valued.

It’s Your Ship: Management Techniques from the Best Damn Ship in the Navy
Captain D. Michael Abrashoff
Time Warner Books Group, New York: 2002
Quotes on 96, 138

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Paula M. Kramer
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A web host transfer made some posts disappear. Luckily, I copied each post and emailed it to myself. Since I alternated success and failure posts, I will have to remove posts and republish them in success and failure order. I will do this as I have time. Apologies.