Making An Announcement Without Permission Backfires Into Forced Silence

Blunder Backfire
Your neglect for other people’s needs and passions
backfires onto you as unforeseen blunders

2007
Gawker.com published a story announcing that Silicon Valley investor Peter Thiel is gay.

2009
Peter Thiel compared Gawker to al Qaeda, describing them as terrorists.

2012
Gawker published a video of Hulk Hogan (real name Terry Bollea) having sex with a friend’s wife. Hogan said he had no knowledge they were being videotaped. He filed a lawsuit against Gawker. Hogan was just one of many people to sue Gawker.

2016
Gawker sells a minority stake to Russian billionaire Viktor Vekselberg of Columbus Nova Technology Partners. Gawker uses part of the money to pay its legal bills.

Hulk Hogan wins his lawsuit against Gawker. The court awards Hogan $115 million plus another $25 million in punitive damages.

Forbes magazine revealed that Peter Thiel paid Hogan’s legal expenses. Peter Thiel also paid legal fees for other lawsuits against Gawker. Thiel considers this philanthropy.

Gawker files for Chapter 11 bankruptcy after a judge denies its request for a stay that would have delayed paying Hulk Hogan. The company began an auction supervised by the court.

Univision Media bought Gawker in the bankruptcy auction.

Univision Media and Gawker Media shutdown Gawker.com, silencing the website that made an announcement about Peter Thiel without his permission.

“Peter Thiel’s War On Gawker: A Timeline”
Matt Drange
Forbes Magazine
June 21, 2016

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A Family, An Employer, Social Media Companies, Web Host Providers, and A Government Find Fault After Charlottesville

Finding Fault Failure
Other people responding negatively to you
because you create a failure they detest

Several alt-right groups came together in Charlottesville, Virginia on August 12, 2017 “to show a unified front.” The alt-right groups wanted “to move their community from the virtual world into the real one.” The rally was a protest against Charlottesville’s city government plan to remove a statue of Confederate General Robert E. Lee. The protest became violent. James Alex Fields drove his car into a group of counter protesters, killing 32 year old Heather Heyer and injuring 19 others. @YesYoureRacist identified several of the white supremacists at the rally,

Peter Tefft

Horrified to learn of his son’s involvement, Pearce Tefft wrote an open letter denouncing Peter’s “vile, hateful and racist rhetoric and actions.” Mr. Tefft went even further:

“Peter Tefft, my son, is not welcome at our family gatherings any
longer. I pray my prodigal son will renounce his hateful beliefs
and return home. Then and only then will I lay out the feast.”

Cole White

Torch bearing white supremacist Cole White lost his job at Top Dog, a Berkeley, California restaurant. Top Dog management posted this sign outside the restaurant:

“Effective Saturday 12th August, Cole White no longer works
at Top Dog.” The actions of those in Charlottesville are not
supported by Top Dog. We believe in individual freedom and
voluntary association for everyone.”

The Daily Stormer

The Daily Stormer is a neo-Nazi website. After the rally, Daily Stormer founder Andrew Anglin posted an article disparaging rally murder victim Heather Heyer:

“drain on society”

“the definition of uselessness”

“Most people are glad she is dead.”

GoDaddy gave The Daily Stormer 24 hours to find another web host. Google rejected The Daily Stormer as well, as did a Russian web host, as did DreamHost.

Russian web host Ru-Center suspended Daily Stormer after an official government inquiry. Russia’s government media regulator, Roskomnadzor, wrote Ru-Center asking the company to:

“to look into [the] possibility of register suspension due to
extremist content of this domain.”

Social media companies Facebook and Reddit banned far right extremist groups and removed links to pages posted by far right extremists. Facebook removed all links to The Daily Stormer post attacking the Charlottesville rally murder victim, Heather Heyer.

Extreme words and actions prompt extreme finding fault responses.

“Daily Stormer jumps to dark web while Reddit and Facebook ban hate groups”
Samuel Gibbs
The Guardian
August 16, 2017

“Easy come, easy go Daily Stormer briefly reappears on DreamHost before disappearing again”
Devin Coldeway
TechCrunch
August 24, 2017

“GoDaddy — then Google — ban neo-Nazi site Daily Stormer for disparaging Charlottesville victim”
Katie Mettler and Avi SelkThe Washington Post
August 14, 2017

“’I Refuse to Let Them Win.’ Meet the Activist Exposing Charlottesville White Supremacists on Twitter”
Melissa Chan
Time Magazine
August 15, 2017

“Letter: Family denounces Tefft’s racist rhetoric and actions”
Pearce Tefft
INFORUM
August 14, 2017

“A man lost his job after a photo of him at the deadly Charlottesville white-supremacist rally went viral”
Hayley Peterson
Business Insider
Aug. 14, 2017

“Russian Web Host Suspends Daily Stormer After Government Inquiry”
Carl Schreck
RadioFreeEurope
RadioLiberty
August 17, 2017

‘”’Unite The Right’: Charlottesville Rally Represented Collection Of Alt-Right Groups”
“All Things Considered” with host Audie Cornish
NPR
August 15, 2017

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Spotlighting Standout Success For Alexander Knoll Because He Sparks Straightforward Success

When he was about age nine, Alex Knoll of Post Falls, Washington saw a man in a wheelchair struggle to open a door to his grandparents’ store. Alex looked for an app that would give people information about access before they left their homes. He found none, so he decided to create one.

Ability App will include information on:

Locations of wheelchair ramps

Accessible boat launches

Accessible hiking trails

Locations friendly to service animals

Restaurants with Braille menus

Grocery delivery

Occupational therapy

Transportation and mobility

Job listings

And more

Alex wants to include voice-activation and eye-tracking features in his app. The Ability App will spark straightforward success for people who have difficulty participating in the world.

Spotlights for Alex Knoll’s standout success include:

Won best in show at Invent Idaho
2014

Explained his app To Governor Butch Otter, first lady Lori Otter, and state lawmakers in Boise, Idaho.

Won Grand Champion at I Cubed
2014

Gave presentation to Think Big Festival in Coeur d/Alene
2014

Gave presentation to University of Idaho computer sciences students and faculty in Moscow, Idaho.

Addressed teachers at the North Idaho STEM Charter Academy in Rathdrum, Idaho

Shared Ability App at Web Summit in Dublin, Ireland
2015

Marc Boudria of Chaotic Moon Studios gave Knoll insights on improving the user experience.

Guy Fraker of Senndex in Illinois offered to partner with Knoll to provide background checks on service providers included in the app.

Met with Christine Fox of the Johns Hopkins University Applied Physics Laboratory in Laurel, Maryland.

Appeared on The Ellen DeGeneres Show where Ellen presented Alex with a $25,000 check to help
him launch his app.

The spotlights for Alexander Knoll will likely increase as people use it and participate more frequently in the world around them.

“Young inventor’s Ability App gains traction”
Scott Maben
The Spokesman-Review
October 14, 2015

“Young Post Falls inventor meets his hero, Ellen DeGeneres, leaves with $25,000”
Scott Maben
The Spokesman-Review
May 25, 2017

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Full-Blown Failure: Using The Past To Take Revenge In The Present

Full-Blown Failure
The unforeseen failure other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create failure for them

College student Summer and several girlfriends decided to go on spring break together, splitting the cost of hotel and car rentals. One of the girlfriends, Liz, changed her mind at the last minute to spend time with new boyfriend Pete. Liz was unconcerned and unapologetic about the financial burden this placed on “strapped for cash” Summer and the other spring break cohorts.

To take revenge, Summer invited some spring break cohorts and Pete over to watch favorite sitcoms on a night Liz had to do job work. Summer and her spring break cohorts told Pete “scandalous stories” from Liz’s past, including her “weird habits” and participation in “sketchy situations”. The stories were enough to convince Pete to break up with Liz. Pete even told Liz she needed professional help.

Liz intentionally created failure for her friends because of Pete, so her friends intentionally created failure for her relationship with Pete.

“Confessions”
Cosmopolitan Magazine
January 2004, page 20.

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Spectacular Success On A Hot Summer Day

Spectacular Success
The unforeseen success other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create success for them.

Elaine Patterson hired a handyman to do odd jobs around her house on a hot summer day. When he was finished working, she invited him inside for a piece of pie and a cool drink. She created success for him with food, comfort, and respect. The handyman noticed that Elaine’s air conditioner wasn’t cooling as well as it should. The next day, the handyman created spectacular success for Elaine when he brought her a working replacement air conditioner. Elaine enjoyed the spectacular success of feeling cool in her house for many more hot summer days.

Circle of Kindness: “A welcome relief”
Elaine Patterson
Woman’s World
July 9, 2012

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Foolish Rudeness Ruins A Job Interview

Foolish Failure
Ignoring opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you believe
your success depends on their failure

Driving to a job interview, a man passed another driver, cut the other driver off, and flipped his finger at the other driver. The rude man believed that his success in getting to the job interview depended on the other driver’s failure.

The rude man showed up for the interview only to discover that the interviewer was the other driver. The interviewer had already experienced this man’s rudeness on the highway. She knew that hiring him meant bringing his rudeness into her workplace. Since the man’s qualifications meant nothing compared to his foolish rudeness, he left without a job offer.

“All in a Day’s Work”
Reader’s Digest
November, 2012, page 30

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Smart Success Begins With Recognizing Equality

Smart Success
Seeing opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you understand that
your success is connected to their success

Freelance writer Louise Tutelian became a volunteer for Literacy Volunteers of America. She wrote a “Viewpoint” column for Glamour Magazine about the experience of tutoring middle-aged Tom to read. Tom had been sickly as a child, had missed months of school at a time, and since his school apparently didn’t help him catch up, quit at age 12.

Tutelian began the sessions with the expectation of “imparting some of the fruits of my knowledge to someone less fortunate than I.” She had to overcome the “glare from my halo” before she could recognize equality and start practicing smart success.

Tutelian did teach Tom to read, but much slower than she expected. In return, Tom taught Tutelian persistence. She had so much trouble getting her new computer to print out a chart she designed that she considered giving up and making the chart by hand. Then Tutelian remembered Tom persistently insisting that she drill him on sounding out the “m” and “n” sounds until he knew he could pronounce them correctly no matter when they appeared. Tutelian slowed down to Tom’s speed, “carefully reread the instructions”, and printed out her chart.

Tom also taught Tutelian to forget about focusing on big successes right away. Through Tom, Tutelian learned to be happy with the small successes that would eventually make the big successes possible.

Finally, Tom taught Tutelian to be grateful for everything she had taken for granted. Tom worked as a sanitation worker who had to drive trucks even though he could not read road signs. He had been cheated by his ex-wife because he couldn’t read insurance forms. He bought the wrong food at grocery stores because he could not read the packages. Tutelian easily read road signs to get where she wanted to go, read legal documents as she needed to, and brought home the food she wanted to eat. Tom needed to learn to read for survival. Tutelian stopped bringing in sports stories to teach Tom reading comprehension. Instead, she focused on the road signs and food packages Tom needed to read for survival.

It’s obvious to me that Tutelian learned a fourth lesson from Tom:

Effectiveness begins with satisfying basic needs.

Tutelian’s late blooming smart success left her feeling less “noble”, a feeling that hadn’t done her any good anyway. Recognizing her equality with Tom brought her serendipitous opportunities to benefit from what Tom could teach her about success.

“Teaching an Illiterate Taught Me Plenty”
Louise Tutelian
Glamour
March 1988, page 32

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Freaky Failure From Juvenile Firesetters

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time
to just by chance suffer a loss
because of someone else’s failure

Arson fires —  fires set deliberately — kill people, maim people, destroy property, and damage property. More than half of arson firesetters are children. Children start fires for a variety of reasons. Childhood trauma is one of them.

Firestarting children act in response to parents who are absent, distant, or uninvolved.
(page 7)

Traumatized children set fires to express anger toward fathers for abuse and toward mothers for rejection, neglect, or abandonment.
(pages 9, 10, 11)

Severely disturbed juvenile firesetters have often endured such neglect and dysfuntional relationships with their parents that they experience PTSD and General Anxiety Disorder (GAD). Setting fires is one way to release anxiety.
(page 12)

The National Fire Protection Association estimates for fires set during 2007 to 2011 include:

282,600 intentional fires reported to U.S. fire departments each year

420 civilian deaths

1,360 civilian injuries

$1.3 billion in direct property damage

Parents who neglect and abuse their children create negative feelings in their children. Neglected and abused children who need to express those negative feelings too often do so by setting fires. The failure of parents to satisfy their children’s needs can lead to freaky failure for victims of child firesetters.

“Intentional Fires”
Richard Campbell
National Fire Protection Association
April 2014

“Juvenile Firestarting: A Research Overview”
Charles T. Putnam and John T. Kirkpatrick
Juvenile Justice Bulletin
May 2005

“Trauma Symptoms and Social Skills Deficits in Juvenile Firesetters”
Donna Fogg
Pacific University CommonKnowledge
July 24, 2009

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Gatorade’s Serendipitous Success Stretches Back 100s Of Years

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time
to just by chance benefit from
someone else’s success

Do you enjoy drinking Gatorade? If so, your enjoyment is serendipitous success stemming from the straightforward success of ordinary people in Bangladesh. Hundreds of years ago, Bangladeshis created straightforward success for cholera victims by giving them carbohydrates and sugar to keep them hydrated. Western doctors who had gone to Bangladesh to help during a cholera outbreak were astonished to see how effective the local treatment was. According to Western medicine at the time, giving carbohydrates and sugar to diarrhea patients would worsen their diarrhea. Ordinary Bangladeshis proved that to be wrong.

The doctors published a paper about the effective treatment in a British medical journal. Doctors at the University of Florida saw the article. They blended carbohydrates and sugar in a drink to hydrate football players on the university’s football team, the Gators.

“The World As R+D Lab: How to recognize great ideas from developing countries—and bring them home”
Vijay Govindarajan
Inc. Magazine
May 2012, pages 98-100

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Stereotyping Children Creates Fundamental Failure

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs in a
particular situation neglected or denied, setting you up
to fail despite your own efforts

Children with dental problems that go untreated can be “distracted” by their pain and “easily agitated” in school. The stereotyping explanation for teachers and school administrators is that easily agitated children are exhibiting behavior problems. Strategies to end behavior problems will not alleviate dental pain. Neglecting dental problems sets up children in pain to fail despite their own efforts.

“50 Secrets From Your Dentist”
Chris Woolston
Reader’s Digest
July 2009

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A web host transfer made some posts disappear. Luckily, I copied each post and emailed it to myself. Since I alternated success and failure posts, I will have to remove posts and republish them in success and failure order. I will do this as I have time. Apologies.