School Anxiety In Children Causes Freaky Failure For Adults

Originally published February 21, 2013.

Updated and republished October 8, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time to just by chance
suffer a loss because of someone else’s failure

Test anxiety faces every child who takes the minimum 17 exams from 3rd through 12th grade because of No Child Left Behind. Some students are faced with extra anxiety because of stereotypes. Girls face stereotypes that they cannot do well on math and science. Blacks and Latinos face stereotypes that they could not do well in college.

If parents and teachers fail to help children cope with their anxiety, students do not do as well on exams as they could. If children never get help with their anxiety, their performance will continue at less than their potential. When they somehow enter your life as adults (employees at a business you frequent, employees at a service provider you use, your colleague on the job), whatever they bring into your life will be less than what their potential was. You are then in the right place at the right time to just by chance suffer the loss of their best because parents and teachers failed to ease anxiety in children.

“A Depressing Reason Sixth-Grade Girls Score Lower in Math Than Boys”
Melissa Dahl
New York Magazine
September 2, 2015

“Lower Expectations And Stereotypes, Biggest Challenges For Latino Students”
John Benson
Huffington Post
January 14, 2013

“Thin Ice: “Stereotype Threat” and Black College Students”
Claude M. Steele
The Atlantic
August 1999

“The Relation of Early Adolescent Anxieties To Young Adults Occupational Self-concepts”
Mina N. Vida & Jacquelynne S. Eccles
University of Michigan

Paula M. Kramer
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The Serendipitous Benefit of Laurene Powell’s Sunflower Success

Originally published January 24, 2013.

Updated and republished September 20, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time to just by chance
benefit from someone else’s success

Laurene Powell planted a garden, including a bed of of sunflowers.

Laurene’s husband was Steve Jobs. Steve and industrial designer Jony Ives walked through Laurene’s garden where they admired the sunflowers and how the flowers seemed to float above the plants.

Inspired, Jobs and Ive designed the sunflower iMac with the floating screen above a rounded base. Laurene Powell’s successful sunflower bed created serendipitous success for Steve Jobs, Jony Ive, and every Apple customer who enjoyed using a sunflower iMac.

(Paula Kramer used a sunflower iMac for more than 10 years. She still has it)

“Steve Jobs Didn’t Invent Design, But He Patented It”
NPR Staff
National Public Radio
May 13, 2012

Paula M. Kramer
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Setting Children Up For Fundamental Failure

Originally published January 17, 2013.

Updated and republished September 9, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation neglected or denied,
setting you up to fail despite your own effort

The United States, a economically rich country, is doing less to provide its poorest children with the basics for survival. Federal and state governments limit or cut funding for health care and food, neglecting the physical needs of its poorest children.

Because their physical needs are neglected, these children live with health problems which in turn create education problems. They are more likely to endure poor health as adults, including cardio-vascular disease.

Because neglect of their physical needs prevents children from reaching their mental potential, these children do poorly in school and have low skills.

The parents of poor families work at such low wages that they have to work long hours. Those long hours mean parents can spend very little time with their children. They have little time or energy to satisfy children’s emotional needs. Because their emotional needs are neglected, these children have lower aspirations and earn less money as adults.

These children grow into adults with weak physical health, weak mental skills, and weak emotional resources. Neglect has set them up to fail despite their own efforts. Their failure means they are more likely to create freaky failure for other people rather than serendipitous success.

“The Children Left Behind: A league table of inequality in child well-being in the world’s rich countries”
UNICEF
Innocenti Report Card 9

“Enduring influence of childhood poverty”
Katherine Magnuson and Elizabeth Votruba-Drzal
Focus
Volume 26, Number 2, Fall 2009

“How Youth Are Put At Risk by Parents’ Low-Wage Jobs”
Center for Social Policy
Lisa Dodson, Randy Albelda, Diana Salas Coronado, and Marya Mtshall

“Rich countries letting poorest children fall, says new report”
UNICEF
“Report Card 9 – The Children Left Behind”
December 3, 2010

“The State of Children’s Dental Health: Making Coverage Matter”
The PEW Charitable Trusts
May 24, 2011

Paula M. Kramer
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Being Perfect For The Job Couldn’t Overcome A Perfect Opportunity For Revenge

Originally published July 24, 2013.

Republished June 19, 2015 after a web host transfer.

Full-Blown Failure
The unforeseen failure other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create failure for them

Twenty year old Shawn spent a summer working for his uncle. The uncle operated the managing branch of a successful oil rig firm. Shawn’s job was to enter prospective resumes into a database. His uncle had asked him to put aside promising resumes.

One resume revealed an applicant who was “perfect for the job” with “great credentials”, “impressive references”, and a “stellar academic record”. The applicant, however, was a “pompous jerk” who had “terrorized” Shawn “all the time” through high school.

The pompous jerk had foolishly failed to see an opportunity for serendipitous success in knowing Shawn. By creating failure for Shawn, the pompous jerk invited Shawn to create failure for him. Shawn accepted the invitation. He ripped up the application and threw it in the garbage.

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success
in people who are different from you because you
believe your success depends on their failure

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time
to just by chance benefit from someone else’s success

Examples of full-blown failure reveal that many of them are created behind an individual’s back. The pompous jerk probably never knew how Shawn took revenge on his life.

Cosmopolitan Magazine
“Guy Confessions”
August 2004, page 38

Paula M. Kramer
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