Stereotyping Children Creates Fundamental Failure

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs in a
particular situation neglected or denied, setting you up
to fail despite your own efforts

Children with dental problems that go untreated can be “distracted” by their pain and “easily agitated” in school. The stereotyping explanation for teachers and school administrators is that easily agitated children are exhibiting behavior problems. Strategies to end behavior problems will not alleviate dental pain. Neglecting dental problems sets up children in pain to fail despite their own efforts.

“50 Secrets From Your Dentist”
Chris Woolston
Reader’s Digest
July 2009

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Straightforward Success From Slices Of Pizza

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

One day, a customer at Rosa’s Fresh Pizza in Philadelphia asked the owner of the store a question that launched pay-it-forward pizza. The customer wanted to know if he could buy a slice of pizza for a homeless person. Owner Mason Wartman said yes.

A slice of pizza at Rosa’s costs $1. By July 8, 2015, customers of Rosa’s had bought more than 10,000 slices of pizza for their homeless neighbors. The wall is now covered with Post-it notes. Notes to redeem for free slices of pizza. Notes of encouragement from the people who buy the pizza. Notes of gratitude from people who now have the security of having something to eat everyday.

With pizza in their stomachs, some of the homeless customers succeeded at getting jobs through their own efforts. Other homeless customers stopped committing petty crimes to get money for food. Homeless customers offer to sweep the restaurant floor or take out the garbage. Wartman hired three homeless people to work in his pizza shop, giving them the chance they wanted to work hard. For Wartman they are “who I want here.”

“A customer walked into his pizza shop and changed Philadelphia with $1 and a single Post-it note.”
Maz Ali
upworthy.com

“Philadelphia Pizza Lovers Pay It Forward One Slice At A Time”
Elizabeth Fiedler
NPR
January 15, 2015

“The Pizza Man”
Reader’s Digest
July 8, 2015

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A Benefit That Boomeranged Back & Out

Benefit Boomerang
Your respect for other people’s needs and passions
boomerangs back to you as unforeseen benefits

Hairstylist David Wagner had a client who came in every five weeks. One day, the client came in for a styling weeks early. When Wagner asked about her evening plans, she said she wanted to look and feel good that night.

Wagner gave his client a great scalp massage, shampooed her hair, styled her hair, joked with her, and laughed with her. She hugged him goodbye.

Days later, Wagner received a letter from this client. The client had intended to commit suicide the night of the last styling. She wanted to look good for her funeral. Having no idea what he was doing for the woman, Wagner provided enough respect for her needs and passions that she felt her life could get better. She got treatment and changed her life.

The respect Wagner gave his client boomeranged back to him as a revelation that he had the power to make a difference in the lives of other people. Wagner then boomeranged the benefit out. He launched Daymaker Movement, wrote the book Life As A Daymaker, and continues to respect the needs and passions of other people. Wagner still thanks his client for her letter because of what her letter did for his life. And Daymakers around the world take intentional acts of good will everyday, creating ever more benefit boomerangs.

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The Sincere Offer That Was Enough To Spark An Unimagined Success

Spectacular Success
The unimagined success other people intentionally create for you
because you intentionally create success for them

Jacques Clarence LeBermuth attended Worcester Academy, a private urban boarding school in Worcester, Massachusetts, from 1920 to 1922. When he was a sophomore, LeBermuth’s family had difficulty paying his tuition and boarding fees. The school offered to waive the fees so LeBermuth could continue his education. Instead of taking the offer, LeBermuth dropped out of school and returned to his family in New York City where he got a job as an errand boy at A. Iselin & Company on Wall Street. He moved up into bond trading and became a wealthy investor and banker.

After LeBermuth’s death in 1996 at age 89, his lawyer contacted Worcester Academy to say that LeBermuth had left the school a bequest. By that time, everyone at Worcester had forgotten that LeBermuth had ever attended the Academy. The current administrators knew that Charles E. Merrill had attended Worcester and gone on to found Merrill Lynch & Co., and that Edward Davis Jones had attended Worcester and gone on to cofound Dow Jones & Company, but it took them days to figure out who Jacques Clarence LeBermuth was. Discovering LeBermuth’s connection was important because his $9.5 million bequest to Worcester was the Academy’s largest bequest in its 168 year history.

Perhaps LeBermuth made his generous bequest because Worcester Academy made its generous offer in spite of LeBermuth’s birth outside of the U.S. LeBermuth was born in Belgium. We’ll never know for sure, but it’s obvious that LeBermuth’s gratitude for Worcester Academy’s sincere offer to intentionally create success for him endured through the remaining decades of his life.

“9.5 Million Reasons To Remember Him”
Nathan Cobb
The Boston Globe
March 23, 2002

“Private Sector; Kindness Repaid, 80 Years Later”
Aaron Donovan
The New York Times
March 31, 2002

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The Foolish Failure Of Lisa Kudrow’s Former Best Friends

Foolish Failure
Failing to see opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you do not understand that
your success is connected to their success

When Lisa Kudrow was 13, her two best friends said to her, “For your own good, you need to see what would happen if we weren’t here.” This is the way Lisa describes the experience: “It was really brutal. Very hard.”

Being brutal to a friend is the opposite of doing something for her own good.

Lisa’s older sister got her through those difficult years. Lisa went on to star in the mega-hit television series Friends, become an executive producer for the television series Who Do You Think You Are?, and star in the original, improvised online series Web Therapy. She also was a guest star for several episodes on ABC network’s hit series Scandal.

What sort of serendipitous opportunities, connections, and resources would Lisa Kudrow’s former best friends have now if they had remained her best friends?

For their own good, Lisa Kudrow’s former best friends should have found out what would happen if they had continued to be Lisa’s best friends.

“Lisa Kudrow”
Lawrence Grobel
Saturday Evening Post
January 5, 2014

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Be Smart About Finding Good Doctors

Smart Success
Seeing opportunities for serendipitous success in people
who are different from you because you understand
that your success is connected to their success

A good doctor has an Ivy League degree, a prestigious title, and charm, right?

Not according to Marty Makary, a doctor himself. Makary practices laparoscopic surgery at Johns Hopkins Hospital, teaches health policy at Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health, and is an international expert in patient safety.

Makary’s advice for finding a good doctor is to ask people lower down on the organizational ladder, hospital employees. “Their word trumps an Ivy League degree, prestigious titles, and charm.’

Be smart by looking behind polish (Ivy League degrees, prestigious titles, charm) to look for performance. The people who see performance everyday are the people who know whose performance is best.

High polish does not guarantee high performance.

Low polish (a lower level job in a hierarchy) does not automatically mean low performance.

Low polish hospital employees demonstrate high performance in identifying high performing doctors.

“50 Secrets your Surgeon Won’t Tell You”
Michelle Crouch
Reader’s Digest
October 2012, pages 114-123

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The Failure Of Hospital Workers Creates Freaky Failure For Hospital Patients

Freaky Failure
Being in the wrong place at the wrong time
to just by chance suffer a loss
because of someone else’s failure

Every year, about 100,000 hospital patients die because of drug-resistant superbugs. In hospitals that use motion detectors to activate video cameras, electronic badges that track handwashing, and radio-frequency computer chips in sinks, “numerous medical professionals have been caught trying to cheat the system…” One hidden camera study found that only 10% of medical staff washed their hands. Medical professionals use these justifications to fail at handwashing:

High pressure environments

Tedium of washing hands

Focusing on difficult tasks rather than simple tasks

Resistance to authority

“Hospitals and Superbugs: Go in Sick…Get Sicker”
Coco Ballantyne
Scientific American
October 18, 2007

“Hospitals Enforce Hand-Washing to Reduce High Patient Death Rate from In-House Infections”
allgov.com
May 31, 2013

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One Woman’s Straightforward Get-Out-Of-Bed Success Sparks Life Changing Serendipitous Success For Another Woman

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

Serendipitous Success
Being in the right place at the right time
to just by chance benefit
from someone else’s success

Introduction

Maria Holdsworth is right in saying “It was my good fortune that I was there that day.” Her good fortune began with her own success in getting out of bed and keeping a schedule while unemployed. Maria’s success was also the other woman’s good fortune. The other woman went to the right place at the right time to benefit from Maria’s straightforward get-out-of-bed success. Anyone who benefits from the other woman’s success at her new job will also enjoy serendipitous success from Maria’s straightforward get-out-of-bed success.

Maria’s Story

While I was unemployed I participated In Fremont’s ProNet chapters. I was unemployed for 10 months and showing up at ProNet gave me a schedule and some days even the motivation to get moving in the morning.

One day, a woman feeling hopeless walked into the office needing someone to review her resume. It was my good fortune that I was there that day. Her resume was in order, it was her self-esteem that needed help. I was able to lift her spirits that day, to the point where she smiled…briefly. Literally a few hours after meeting her, she called me to let me know she received an offer from the job she had applied for. I’ll remember that for a long time.

I guess what I saw was someone who was barely holding it together. She had such a wall up when she walked into the office where I volunteered. She was so afraid of the unknown, which was the only promise in her future. She rejected my recommendations that networking were just as important as applying for jobs. I reminded her (in a polite way) that insanity by definition is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results. She had been looking for work strictly by applying for jobs online but was afraid to go to Meetups or other networking events because that was time she felt she could be spending in front of the computer looking for work.

She asked me a question, I don’t recall specifically what she asked but it had to do with what I thought about her. I think it derived from talking about her in-person interview skills. So, I was honest with her and told her I didn’t find her at all rude, but simply unapproachable. We talked on the subject a little more and the greatest reward was that she smiled. I remember I touched her wrist/arm just to reassure her.

After a few weeks I got the following reply to an email I sent inquiring about her new job:

“Don’t ever forget the impact you have on people like me.
You gave me encouragement to hang on a little longer and
I thank you so very much, Maria.”

Final Thought

Maria now carries with her the inner satisfaction of knowing she made a positive impact on someone else’s life. Maria’s straightforward get-out-of-bed success sparked serendipitous success for the other woman, and the other woman’s serendipitous success sparked satisfying success for Maria.

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Hurricane Sandy Triggered Continuing Fundamental Failure

Fundamental Failure
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation neglected or denied,
setting you up to fail despite your own efforts

In October 2012, Hurricane Sandy blew through several countries from the Caribbean up the eastern coast of the United States, killing more than 250 and leaving millions without power, homes, schools, or businesses. The storm set people up to fail at living normal lives despite their own efforts.

Years after Hurricane Sandy hit, many people were still experiencing fundamental failure because their insurance companies failed to give them money to rebuild and federal aid has been slow.

The fundamental failure caused by Sandy has been so overwhelming that many people are in counseling to help them cope. Despite their own efforts, their fundamental failure continues.

“Counseling available for Hurricane Sandy victims still reeling from storm”
Susan K. Livio
NJ Advance Media for NJ.com
November 21, 2013

“Hurricane Sandy Anniversary 2014: Billions Of Dollars In Federal Aid still Unpaid”
Angelo Young
International Business Times
October 29, 2014

“Hurricane Sandy Fast Facts”
CNN Library
CNN
October 3, 2015

“Many Hurricane Sandy insurance claimes closed without payment, data shows”
Ed Beeson
The Star Ledger
May 19, 2013

“Sandy Victims Who Entered FEMA Flood Insurance Review Process Months Ago Are Still Waiting For Claims To Be Processed”
RealEstateRama
November 2, 2015

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Satisfying Employee Straightforward Needs Satisfies Employer Straightforward Needs: Prescriptions & Productivity

Straightforward Success
Having your physical, mental, and emotional needs
in a particular situation satisfied,
setting you up to succeed through your own efforts

Pitney Bowes, Inc. (postage meters, mail machines, etc.) decided to pay for employee prescriptions for diabetes, hypertension, and asthma drugs. With their straightforward physical need for medications satisfied, the employees were able to spend more days on the job. These satisfied employees were able to satisfy the company’s straightforward need for more productivity. Pitney Bowes enjoyed a return on their investment within the first year.

The city of Asheville, North Carolina decided to pay for employee prescriptions for diabetic drugs. Satisfying employee’s straightforward physical need for their medications created such straightforward success for the city that Asheville began paying for hypertension and asthma drugs as well.

“Employers save by paying more for workers’ medicines”
Katie Merx
Stevens Point Journal
January 5, 2006

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